Bask in the Glory That is Living in Your Purpose
Like most things in life, each and every one of us will find a different meaning in what ‘finding one’s purpose’ means and looks like for us. So, I think a better way to gauge the answers is by asking oneself, what is your reason for being? Or as the Japanese call it, ikigai. The answers may vary from day-to-day, and that’s great, because we’re are all fully functioning and capable human beings and we are a result of constant change. What feels good today might not be what feels good tomorrow. So, what does it mean to you in this exact moment in life? What excites you to wake up every morning? How does it feel in your spirit when you are doing something that you truly know you were meant to do? In other words, what’s it like to be you?
These answers may feel hard to discover at the beginning, which is totally understandable, they are pretty loaded questions. But maybe rather than searching for the right words to explain it, you can explore the feeling instead. It will require self-exploration and self-inquiry, for sure, and I think that’s part of the fun. When you are tuned into the changes of your moods and emotions and you start to notice a warm, good feeling — follow that. Keep moving in that direction, and whatever it was that led you to feel that way. Continue exploring it and pay attention to the details; you will maximize the feeling and this will lead you to your answers.
Most of us were fortunate enough to spend a majority of our early childhood years doing just that — exploring. It may or may not have been encouraged, but being a toddler is largely about discovering what on Earth it means to be a human, and using our senses (primarily taste and touch) to figure out more about the vast world we are becoming aware of. Sadly, there’s a good chance that exploration and self-inquiry came to an abrupt halt as we grew older and went through the educational system. Our school systems unfortunately do a great job at conditioning and ensuring we conform to their standards, as a way to produce a homogenous manner of behaviour — to make us all the same. We were probably told at an early age exactly what we need to do in order to be successful, or how we are expected to act to be considered ‘good’ by our guardians, our educators and by society. I always wonder how differently people would be without any of that; without confirming to the norm, without even having a norm, in which every form of self-exploration is responded to with excitement rather than concern. How it would look for everyone to live from their souls’ desires and follow only what feels good and right to them specifically, as individuals.
Deconstructing our lifelong conditioning is not easy, and can actually take years, although it doesn’t require very much ‘doing’ but rather tuning-in and listening. It will always show up in fleeting moments; it may quickly come and quickly go, but do notice it when it comes. Acknowledge what it feels like in your body; do you feel relaxed or tense? Does your heart-rate speed up or are you at ease? Does it bring a smile to your face? Maybe you’ll find yourself humming or whistling. These are small but powerful pieces of information your spirit is speaking to you. If you have no idea what it feels like, that’s fine too. Start small and remember it can always change. We are always changing and improvement only can happen with change — so be open to that too. Don’t bother concerning yourself with what others are doing for them; you will miss what’s right in front of you when you are looking around. Dare to be different and take the road less travelled. Even if you think you’ve found your answers, remaining open to receiving more information, always. And remember that by holding space for yourself to sit and ponder or meditate or journal is an excellent way to begin deconstructing all the conditioning and you will slowly create more and more pockets where your soul can shine through.